A Parents #1 Wish for their Children

Every parent has wishes for their children! What would you pick if you could only share one? What is the most important?

A Parents #1 Wish for their Children

Recently one of my cousins did a poll on Facebook for a class he is taking. One of the questions he asked of parents was “Name the ONE thing you wish for your child/children in life.” My immediate answer was happiness. I still stand by my answer but considering some recent worldly events it has gained an even deeper meaning for me.

All the political and human drama going on currently involving our borders and immigration laws has me feeling sad. Everyone has an opinion about it, but really no matter what side of the “Wall” you associate with, we can all agree that children are our future. Many are very passionate about what is going on but don’t have any ideas as to how to help change the situation.

I myself am mostly apathetic when it comes to politics. I do prefer to stay in my own world and focus on my own family. This does not mean however, that I do not think about worldly problems or that I live in an “ignorance is bliss” state of mind. I wish all these people crossing our border and working to give that one big wish to their children felt they had a better way to go about it. My goal here is NOT to create a debate about who is at fault or even discuss why certain policies are good or bad. I am here to remind everyone of our common goals and wishes for our kiddos!!!

Here is a list of the top 18 ONE wishes my cousins poll question generated. All are great wishes. Some may even be synonyms for others or even encompass others.

  1. Happiness
  2. Inner Peace
  3. Satisfaction
  4. Self Sufficiency
  5. Independence
  6. Employment
  7. Good Health
  8. Stress Free
  9. Faith in God
  10. Love for Self and Others
  11. Wisdom
  12. Kindness
  13. Belonging
  14. Humility (Humbleness)
  15. Positivitity
  16. Confidence
  17. Serenity
  18. Know Thyself

My answer is still Happiness!

I will explain why. Wishing for happiness for my kiddos means, as a mother, I will be working to teach them to find and keep said happiness. I can help guide them to choose what brings them happiness as well. I can show them the joy of being kind, helping others, working hard, loving, family, etc. This list could continue endlessly. We as parents need to focus on teaching our kiddos to seek happiness not only for themselves, but also for others. Leading by example is the most important.

I am aware there are many people and kiddos out in this world that do not have this privilege, but I alone could never hope to change this. I can only hope that by sharing acts of kindness and love within my small reach, happiness will spread to others. At the very least it will spread to my children and have the ripple effect. All these wonderful 18 wishes can and will aid in creating future adults whom we will want in charge of this world in the future. We as parents just need to try our hardest to guide and encourage our kiddos down the right path.

 

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Please, if you enjoyed reading this add a comment sharing and explaining your one biggest wish for your kiddos.

 

I would love to make the list longer. Testimonies on a time when you taught a great lesson providing your child with a stepping stone towards your wish for them! COMMENT Positivitity!

A Parents #1 Wish for Their Kids

Another blog I have written about the benefits of connecting with your kids has some great ideas on building those stepping stones.

http://savorthemomlife.com/the-benefits-of-connecting-with-your-kids/

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Creating Happy and Loved Children Using the 5 Love Languages

Happy Kids by Using the 5 Love Languages

One of the top goals parents have is for their children to be happy.

Creating Happy and Loved Children Using the 5 Love Languages.

When children are younger it is simpler for most of us parents to reach this goal of  happiness. Reasons for this include: cheaper toys, easier conversations, and smaller time demands (driving them to events, etc.) As it is with most aspects of life, things get more complicated the older we become. Therefore, we as parents need to work hard to love and teach our kiddos how to work toward that goal of happiness from the start. We want to build them a good base with love so that happiness can grow.

There is a great book called The 5 Love Languages. It is more about adult relationships, but it can be adapted to any human relationship. My Aunt gave me this book as an engagement gift and I refer to it often. The author, Gary Chapman, worked with Ross Campbell to write The 5 Love Languages of Children. Both are great resources and I will be using their 5 main ideas to give you some examples on how to build that loving base for your kiddos to grow happiness. I’ll give some examples of how us moms might relate to the love language and then some for the kiddos.

 

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts The 5 Love Languages of Children

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Here are The 5 Love Languages:

1. Words of Affirmation-

For a mom this could be: a loving Mother’s Day card, an encouraging text from a friend, or even that very first “I love you” from our kiddos. Ways you can give this to your child include: an encouraging mantra before getting onto the bus in the morning, praise for learning a new skill or really any behavior you want to encourage, and even encouraging words of reassurance when they are disappointing us with their behavior.

2. Quality Time-

For a mom this could be: talking and walking with a friend, watching a movie with the hubby, or having a dinner date. Ways to give this to your child include: family meal times, board games, bedtime stories, and asking questions about their day. Spending time to teach them skills for future independence could also be included in this category. Feeling proud of mastering a skill is a sure way to build happiness.

3. Receiving Gifts-

For a mom this could include: “just because” flowers, a new box of wine from the hubby, or a new book you’ve been wanting to read. Ways you can share this with your child include: birthday gifts and other holiday treats, or really any other “just because” present you may treat them to. Just be sure to do this in moderation. Too much can result in dependence and negative behavior. If they get a new toy every time you go shopping, it will be expected and no longer a treat.

4. Acts of Service-

For a mom this could be: hubby taking out the trash, cooking dinner, or doing dishes. Oh, I also love when he pumps my gas for me! I hate that chore. It is harder to think of examples for our children that are outside of their normal every day needs, like feeding, clothing and sheltering them. Some extra ways to show acts of service for your child include: helping them with a special project or game and taking them to hang with a friend or other special event.

5. Physical Touch-

For mom this could be: romantic time with your partner, a big sloppy toddler kiss, or a warm hug from a friend. Ways to share with your kiddos could be: a goodnight hug and kiss, a reassuring back rub or hand hold, a congratulatory high five or even a boo-boo healing kiss.

These 5 love language ideas are great ways to build the base for growing happiness in your children. As I mentioned under the Receiving Gifts heading, we as parents need to make sure we are giving a good mix of these ideas to our kiddos. There is a possibility of too much of a good thing. Moderation is helpful, and that is why it’s great to have 5 different ways to build that happiness.

Also, every kid is different. Some may really respond more to one type of the 5 languages than another. Some don’t like to be touched, so the hugs and kisses won’t have the same effect. In the books, the authors have included a short quiz to figure out which of the love languages are more dominant in a person. Go try out the quiz with your kiddo to see which language may work best for you both!

Take the Love Language Quiz Here!<———–

Quick Review
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Quality Time
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch

These kiddos of ours are amazing blessings, and it is truly overwhelming when I think of the responsibility that we must help make them the best they can be for this world. Using these ideas to spread the love and happiness are helpful, especially when life throws difficulties and stress our way.

I have written two other blogs about connecting with your kiddos. If you want to check those out for ideas go for it!

The Benefits of Connecting with Your Kids<————-

Connecting on Days You “Just Can’t”<——————

Remember, if you want more info on this topic to check out these two books I mentioned. Here are the links to the books again!

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